Not sure if I’ve written something as specific as this before. Maybe Filipina charm and Filipina beauty is pretty obvious to Down Under Visa and Filipina Wives BLOG readers, but I feel like writing about it. Because if it wasn’t for the charm and beauty of Filipina ladies, none of us would have any specific to talk about, would we?
Beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder, of course. I always liked petite women. Always preferred brunettes to blondes. And I have early memories of being a 6 or 7 year old and finding a little girl at school of Asian background to be particularly pretty. So yes, it made it particularly logical that one day I stopped dating Aussie women and turned my attention to the Philippines. Odd that I didn’t do so earlier, really. I’ve lived full time in the Philippines for the last 7 years, and to me it’s far more normal to see Filipinas than it is to see Caucasians. And I’m not complaining in any way.
Filipina charm and personal qualities
And whist beauty is in the eye of the beholder, the number one factor in why I think we decent Aussie gentlemen find ourselves attracted to Filipina girls is their charm. Their sweetness. Their gentleness. Their kindness. Their generosity and compassion. Their easy-going nature. Their old-fashioned and stable attitudes toward marriage, families and children. And that propensity to smile just-because! To me? Those are definitely the factors that push our lovely Filipina wives and sweethearts well and truly over the line, and make them completely irresistible.
I can remember talking to Australian friends after my first two relationships with Filipina ladies fell down, and discussing how I would try again. Aussie woman looks at me and asks me why I hadn’t “learned my lesson yet?” Why on earth would I try again? Why don’t I just look for a local lady?
I asked her a straight question, and to her credit she answered honestly. I said “OK, YOU tell me if you know of any local woman whom you could introduce me to who would be prepared to get to know me with a view to marriage-for-life and would make a great wife and mother to my two sons?” She knew a lot of people, yet after thinking for a bit she shook her head. Plenty of lovely ladies around in Australia, but most of them are married and will stay married. Of the ones that are left, it’s not so easy to find someone who has the family values, traditional view on marriage and easy-going kind caring nature to match what the average family-oriented Aussie man is looking for.
Yet in the Philippines? It’s not so unusual. Yes, I recently had a bit of a rip into the effect of modern western-style values on the younger Filipino population, and I stand by this. But it’s still not so hard to find a sweet, kind and caring lady here who can make you very happy. I tend to think in a positive tone that many of the “millennials” will soon tire of the experimentation into western style morality when they meet a decent man who wants to marry them.
I couldn’t write this without praising my own wonderful wife Mila. Couldn’t possibly hope for anybody to take better care of me than her. Most selfless and generous person I’ve ever known, and like that line in the movie “She made me want to be a better person”. Fact! I know I’m kinder and more generous than I was before I met her, simply by being with her every day. And because she’s very obviously taken already, I will tell you that she’s not the only kind-hearted and generous woman here in the Philippines. Empathy for others, and a willingness to share what they have and to give of themselves, this is normal here in the Philippines. Kindness is shown to friends, family, total strangers and very much to husbands of Filipina ladies! My challenge is to try to keep up with how much she does for me. I try, but I haven’t a hope because I don’t believe I have the same capacity for kindness. Although simple gestures, kind words, sharing time and a few romantic gestures seem to go a long way.
And smiles? My goodness, how wonderful it is to be greeted by ladies who smile for absolutely no reason at all? To have a house full of laughter. Where ladies don’t spend too much time dwelling on those real or imaginary things that could get them down, because there’s always something better to think about and plenty of reasons to be grateful for a good life. Hard to frown when she’s too busy counting her blessings! And being greeted by a smiling face from someone who’s genuinely happy just because you’re there? That’s something pretty special.
So yes, I must admit my beauty-detector finds these ladies utterly gorgeous physically. Big brown eyes like chocolates. Shiny black hair. Cute little noses. Coffee-coloured skin. Utterly delicious! But whilst that’s very pleasant, it’s the beautiful hearts that these ladies possess that is their true essence. It’s that goodness that the love and the smiles stem from. I’m happy, and I’m not going anywhere!