Finding your Filipina girl
How do I find my future wife in the Philippines?
Finding your girl! Sounds scary, eh?
The good news is that there are 98 million people in the Philippines. And at least half of them are women. And a sizable proportion are unmarried. And you will soon discover there are a lot of very pretty and very sweet ladies there. Lovely girls wherever you look! And there's definitely something very special about them. Petite ladies. Fine features. Beautiful skin. Usually slim and trim. Dainty and graceful. And a sea of smiling faces with happy and positive dispositions. Friendly, warm and kind.
So there's a very good chance you'll find someone.
Are the girls in the Philippines only after you for your money? Some are. Most definitely. We'll cover this more in the next page, but yes you need to be aware that you are comparatively richer than probably 95% of the population. And of course there are those who will be unprincipled and will only want you for your money. Remember that there are (please forgive me for a dreadful cliche) "plenty of fish in the sea". If the girl is wrong wrong for you, then walk away. Use your brains, and think with the larger head (the one on your shoulders).
Methods?
The old fashioned method was by writing letters. Often a man in Australia would be "fixed up" by the wife of a friend, who has a relative or friend in the Philippines whom they had matched him up with. And there's a lot to be said for writing letters! Yes, it takes time. And many men have lost (or never developed) the art of writing a letter. But compared to "chat", it gives time to mull over your thoughts and to put some depth and feeling into what you put on paper. I met my wife via an ad on a website, but we wrote dozens of letters. And what it meant was that I got to know the person I was writing to, and the distractions of "the other head" didn't come into play. So try to add at least SOME letters to your communication.
The modern method is via emails, yahoo chat, websites with chat modules, interspersed with text messages and phonecalls. Anything wrong with it? Not in itself. Just be aware that light-hearted banter and "chat" can lack depth very easily, especially if it's flirtatious. And the speed of transmission means that you can swap 100 emails and countless hours of chat-time in a month. And that can allow romances to develop in a dizzying timeframe. Don't rush! Yes, you can fall in love in a month. But if it's real, she won't mind waiting for the relationship to mature before you commit to something.
Methods like our FilipinaHeart.com site (see the bottom of the page!) provide you with a large number of girls to consider. And an advantage is that you'll tend to get a broader range of girls from all walks of life than you will on chat programs and in chat rooms. And you each have a bit more time to consider whom the person is from the bio-data. If you want to know, then this would be our method-of-choice.
The "other method"
The other "well tried" method is to go to the Philippines, and either head for the shopping malls, or to head for the red-light districts. Some feel that they need to meet the girl in person to see if there's "chemistry". Sorry! I don't agree! Attraction like that is far more BIOCHEMISTRY (ie. hormones!) than anything else! Don't confuse horniness with love!
Firstly, Filipinas are shy and demure by nature. And the NICE girls are old-fashioned. Allowing themselves to be chatted-up by a charming Aussie with smooth pick-up lines is NOT the way a nice girl behaves. And by and large, it's those old-fashioned values that attracted you to the Philippines in the first place. These are not short, darker-skinned Aussie girls. These are Filipinas. And you have a serious challenge meeting your future-wife this way.
And secondly, whilst anything is theoretically and occasionally actual, bar girls are a different kettle of fish altogether. I've seen (as a hotel guest....not as a customer) Filipina bar girls give the most wonderful and convincing "girlfriend" impersonations the world has ever seen, to the point that you would swear she loved the bloke. And the next night she's doing the same thing with a different one. Becoming a bar girl is such a quantum fall-from-grace for a Filipina, most never recover from this. You can take the girl out of the bar, but it's very hard to take the bar out of the girl. You are best advised to steer clear!
(Having said that, I know that I risk upsetting a few people. Of COURSE there will be the possibility of a bar girl falling in love and leaving the old lifestyle behind. But I think that even those who are happily married to ex-bargirls will admit that the average success-rate is low. To those who's met that way and made it? I take my hat off to you!)
