Commonsense advice & information for men married to a girl from the Philippines
What is this site about? It is a website specifically for Australians which explains the wonderful aspects of marriage between Filipinas (Filipino ladies are referred to as "Filipinas") and "western" men, presented as a source of useful information to help men avoid the mistakes that mainly come from a lack of understanding of a unique Asian culture. Knowledge is power. And knowledge can mean the difference between disappointment and hurt, and a very fulfilling and bright future.
The site is written for Australian men, and always from that perspective.
And please note that this is NOT a marriage service or introduction agency. We cannot and will not find partners for anybody. We only offer advice on cross-cultural relationships.
Republic Act 6955 in the Philippines states:
An act to declare unlawful the practice of matching Filipino women for marriage to foreign nationals on a mail order basis and other similar practices, including the advertisement, publication, printing or distribution of brochures, fliers and other propaganda materials in furtherance thereof and providing penalty therefore.
The purpose of this Act is to protect the safety and the dignity of Filipino women, and we support this wholeheartedly. My wife and family are Filipino, and I have the highest respect for them as I do for Filipino culture in general.
But this is not a simple process. Marriage should be marriage-for-life, therefore this should be the biggest decision you'll ever make. You're choosing your life-partner, and you've chosen for your own reasons to search in a different country and in a culture that's very different from your own. Armed with the right knowledge, this should be the adventure of your life. And the reward can be great.
And as you should intend this to be a marriage for life, make this a lifelong study. I still get confused, and I still fall into some of the same ol' traps, and no doubt you will to. So read, and reflect. TALK to your wife, and LISTEN. Talk and listen with others who have been there before. Read informed books on the subject. The reward will be a happier married life that can only get better with increased knowledge combined with good intentions.
I hope that through this site I can share some of the things I've learned, and if you choose to go down the same path, I hope I can help you to make a great and informed decision for yourself. And I hope I can help you to avoid some of the mistakes and pitfalls that come from a lack of knowledge and experience.
Myths and cliches
The Australian immigration process
FREE PARTNER VISA ASSESSMENT FORM
In Australia (after your Filipino wife arrives)
Cultural Problems & Misunderstandings
Great books about the Filipino culture and the Philippines
Happy couples - satisfied Down Under Visa clients
Other useful links
SERVICES from Down Under Visa
JEFF'S BLOG PAGE - Check for the latest annecdotes
PHILIPPINES VIDEOS - Videos from the Philippines, featuring our clients and (watch this space) some interviews with some lovely Filipina ladies
Let it be known and let it be clear that we deplore any thoughts, words, attitudes or concepts of "mail order brides", and we also deplore the exploitation of Filipina women through prostitution or any of it's "acceptable" forms where poor girls are bought and rented in bars and brothels by men from richer countries. We believe in love and marriage and relationships between two people on equal footing who respect each other and do not use, abuse or exploit each other.